Confidence and Self Esteem

“With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments are beyond your grasp.” -Anonymous

One of the biggest problems people have is low self esteem and lack of confidence. This is a real life ruiner for sure and can lead you to make choices that aren’t in your best interest.  By lacking confidence you don’t believe in yourself enough to succeed or in some cases even try. This is sad because there are some very talented people out there who never even try when they have the most/best skills to perform the task. Studies also show that people with high self-confidence and good self esteem tend to be happier in general. This should be your goal on your journey to being a more developed being.  There are many ways to boost your confidence and self esteem levels, I’m going to help you get started with a few ideas. Feel free to leave any suggestions in the comment area.

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” -Peter T. Mcintyre

Preparing

Before you can change your confidence and self esteem levels you will need to do a few things to get prepared. First I would recommend taking some notes because it will give you something to look back on later. Second, on your notepad you need to make a list of all the things you don’t like about yourself. Be specific for example like “I want to change my weight.” Also, note whether or not these items can be changed or must be accepted. Be honest to don’t put something down as must be accepted because it will require to much effort to change. Its either possible or not.

Your List

Now that you have made a list you need to analyze it. As I mentioned above some items can be changed an others can not. The main two categories for items that can be changed are physical and mental. You can read the sections below for information on these items.

The items on the list that you can’t change for example like your height. You will have to learn to accept them. There isn’t anything you can do about them and whats best for you is to just love yourself no matter what conditions exist. If these things cause you anxiety you have to learn to let go and remember you are who you are feeling bad won’t change a thing.

Physical Changes

Your going to have to make some different kinds of changes to help bring back your confidence. Now this depends on your list but some suggestions would be eat healthy, lose weight, meditate, exercise, go for more walks, dress sharp, change your posture(walking tall has been scientifically  proven to help self esteem), clean your house, etc. These physical changes can be just what the doctor ordered to build up some confidence. Probably the most talked about and in most cases the most important would be regular exercise and diet.

Exercising is really important for self esteem. A good regular workout makes you feel better physically and mentally. It helps you get in shape and have more energy. Try to do at least 30 minutes of exercise per day at least 3 days per week and you will be feeling more confident in no time. Also, eat healthy. If you have a diet with all junk food swap out a meal for some vegetables. Dieting with exercise is the perfect combo.

Change your Mental Thoughts

One of the best ways to give yourself more self esteem and confidence is to change the way you think. You need to like yourself before anyone else can like you.  Believe in yourself and know you can do anything no matter what anyone else says. Even if you fail keep trying never give up. These positive mindset will guide you in the right direction of high self esteem.

Another thing you might want to consider is being more optimistic. Don’t think about the bad things that are going on see good in everything. If you feel guilty about the things you do try to release that guilt. Especially if its something simple like eating. Also, comment people and try to smile. These small actions actually build up alot of self esteem especially if you receive one back.
Some Dos

• Exercise as much as possible
• Have a sense of humor
• Love Yourself
• Love Others
• Complement as much as you can
• Give Thanks

Some Don’t s

• Don’t take other peoples criticism personally
• Don’t tell yourself you can’t be happy
• Don’t feel guilty for simple things like eating
• Do Nothing!

I hope this article helps you get started on feeling more confident. I have faith in your success!

“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” -Anna Freud

“If you have no confidence in self you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence you have won even before you have started.” -Marcus Garvey

“I am, indeed, a king, because I know how to rule myself.” – Pietro Aretino

“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me… or leave me. Accept me – or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be and don’t try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad – you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.” -Stacey Charter“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience by which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it.” – Stan Smith

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