Abandonment This article will explain what abandonment is and will give you some advice to hope cope with abandonment. Abandonment is when you lose a connectedness to another person. It could be a lover, parent, friend, or child. Abandonment can be for a number a of different reasons. Dealing with this can be difficult often times making you feel helpless or dependent. Abandonment is a cumulative wound that contains all the disconnections and losses stemming as far back as childhood. Everyone today has experienced some type of abandonment in their life whether they realize it or not. Here are some… Read more »
Self Help Category
The Root Cause and Permanent Solution for an Alcohol or Drug Addiction
The alcohol and drug problem in this country is huge and most of the standard addiction recovery and treatment programs aren’t working. Consider the following CRIME: 25% of all prison inmates are there for drug related crimes. 16.4% are in prison for committing crimes to get money for drugs. 47% of crimes were committed while a person was on drugs or alcohol. SEX: A lot of the sex outside of marriage wouldn’t happen if it weren’t for alcohol or drugs being used to try to drown out guilt and fear (which are nature’s feedback to try to stop us from… Read more »
Don’t Be a Victim of the People Pleasing Quadrant
People pleasing can be a defeating habit in a person’s life, simply because the act itself takes your focus off what you CAN control, and puts your focus on to what you CAN’T control, which is somebody else’s happiness and peace of mind. Here is a perfect example to illustrate my point: If you buy your lover flowers, and they come home to tell you they just received a raise at work – the flowers you give them are just going to add to their joy, and you are going to have a wonderful evening. However, if you buy your… Read more »
How to Make Your Self-Help Really Help
Ray was on a tear. “All that self-help stuff is okay, I guess, but it has never worked for me. Ever.” He was starting to get excited, waving his arms and pacing around. “In fact,” he went on, “it usually makes things worse for me.” I asked Ray for examples. “Well, like, I’m out of work — you know that, right? — and I’ve wasted the last two months trying to affirm myself a job.” He sat down, dejected. “Heck, it would have worked better if I’d just gone and seen about all the jobs in the classified ads or… Read more »
Guide to Affirmations
Imagine what would happen if you approached someone and insulted them. “I hate you! You’re ugly! No one likes you! You’re a really miserable person!” Well, apart from receiving a slap on the face or punch on the nose, you’re also quite likely to hurt their feelings. What about saying something positive? Perhaps something like this: “You are so beautiful. You’re a really great person and a wonderful friend.” Would you agree that this statement should produce a very different result? It will empower the recipient. It builds their self-esteem and feeling of self-worth. Let’s change the scenario slightly. In… Read more »
Secrets to Get Rid of Stress Now
1) Accept the problem You have to be at peace with a problem, WHILST it is in existence, for the solution to come to you. i.e. you have to accept yourself where you are, no matter what – you cannot solve any problem without first accepting it, and yourself. We spend so much of our time trying to deny what has happened or deny a part of ourselves, pushing it away, which only leads to more of the problem appearing in your life. Very often simply fully accepting the part of you that is creating the problem will be enough… Read more »
Alcohol And Drug Rehabilitation: A Historical Perspective
Every year, the stress of daily life seems to grow more complicated. Cell phones constantly ring; palm-pilots overflow with demanding schedules. Personal lives become complex and unmanageable. The self becomes lost within this whirlwind of relationships, commitments and deadlines. Eventually, pressures become overbearing for both body and mind. This is a major reason why personal health and fitness are so crucial. However, health food and personal trainers are incapable of reaching deep-rooted problems. Addictions are common manifestations of society’s never-ending stress. Luckily, inadequate methods are things of the past. Dependency issues are finally understood, and treatment is possible. A healthy… Read more »
Basics You Need to Know About Alcoholism and Drug Addition
Alcoholism & Drug Addiction are common realities in today’s society. Some estimates have shown that over twenty percent of the United States population battles with a substance abuse problem. Not only health caregivers and social workers encounter this population on a regular basis. Indeed, even company managers and professionals most likely encounter some (if not many) of this percentage more often then not. Professionals in their positions of authority may be the only ones with the opportunity to help. It is their opportunity to spot drug dependency and (hopefully) offer the availability for effective individualized and holistic treatment. A little… Read more »